Flirtology is a science-based method of teaching flirting. Using scientific research, and proven flirting techniques, I can help anyone to become a Fearless Flirter.
I have helped thousands of others, and I can help you too. Are you ready to take a major fork in the road, which will positively affect the rest of your life? Welcome to Flirtology!
- Don’t treat it like a job interview; treat it as a fun chance to get to know someone new.
- Keep things in perspective: one man/woman, one dinner, no big deal.
- Don’t do it because you feel you have to; do it because you want to. It’s like the after work vibe at the gym. People aren’t there for enjoyment, just a combo of punishment and duty.
- Live your life like you want to. Don’t wait for it to start happening when someone else comes into the picture.
- Don’t listen to anyone who is giving you pressure about being married or having kids. Chances are, they are probably just miserable and want you to join the club.
Another way to not get the dating blues is to be smart, even scientific, about the whole process. I will teach you how to do that, on my new course starting in Sept. Have a look here, and add your name to the waiting list.
When you go out for an evening, whether it’s to a bar, party, or lecture, isn’t one of the benefits of being out, the fact that you might meet interesting people? If you agree with this, then think back to what usually happens on a night out for you. Do you meet new people?
Thursday, I held an event at Home House, ‘What the Best Flirts Know’. It was a great evening (I am biased). And, I did something that I haven’t done before; I emailed the guests beforehand, and asked if anyone would like to ‘help’ me on the evening. I assigned them various tasks, such as: making sure everyone had a name tag, introducing people to each other, passing around my mailing list signup page (you don’t think I am above using unpaid labour, do you?). People recognise that it’s easier to begin conversations when it’s not about them, but a task. By creating these tasks, people felt it easy to approach others.
Let’s set the scene. You are at a party, and you see someone you like. Instantly, having identified that you ‘like’ them, you start feeling pressure. If your mind hasn’t already started doing a number on you, convincing you what this stranger will do and say if you begin speaking to them, the instant pressure that comes from now ‘liking’ someone, will certainly grind any potential action to a halt. But, let me convince you that you are throwing down the gauntlet, and putting yourself under pressure, waaay too early in the game.
I have spoken before about the dangers of labeling. Once you label it, so it becomes and, therefore, is forever stuck in a tiny, rigid box. Furthermore, how can you decide you like someone, a stranger no less, in one glance? Isn’t this a bit too soon in the game to slap on a label of ‘like’?
Must be time for a mid-week mini!
- Give him a big smile and make direct eye contact.
- Give him a light tap on the upper arm, or even on the hand, for a flirtier message.
- Make her feel special by giving compliments: ‘You’re so right’ and ‘I like your style!’
- Give leading statements, such as, ‘I’ve always wanted to do that, but none of my friends are interested.’
- Use inclusive language: we, us our