One of the questions that I am most frequently asked is ‘How can I talk to someone who is in a group?’
First of all, do not, I repeat, DO NOT go up to the group on your own. Can you really hold the attention of a group of strangers on your own? If you’re not the illusionist, Derren Brown, think again…
Method 1 (To be used by an individual)
The person will eventually have to leave the group at some point, whether it’s to go to the bar, the restroom, etc. The time will come, just channel Mr. Miyagi and be patient. Once the person of your desires leaves the group, ‘magically’ appear next to him/her. Use contextual questions, such as: ‘Have you been served yet?’ or ‘Do you know where the restroom is?’ to begin a conversation.
Method 2 (Used by a people in a group)
If the person you fancy is in a group and you are in a group, you have another option. Move your group in very close physical proximity to the other person’s group. When you are in close physical proximity to the object of desire, bump your chairs, hips, backs, etc. and say, ‘I’m sorry, it’s awfully crowded in here.’ Follow up with another question or comment, ‘Is it always so busy here? It’s the first time I’ve been here.’ Et voila, you have started a conversation. If they look like they are an open group, be sure you are in close enough proximity and then ‘join’ their conversation.
Talking to someone in a group is not so difficult. You just have to choose your timing and positioning, wisely. When in doubt, channel Mr. Miyagi, the wisest man around.